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What To Do When You Don't Know What To Do

Part 2 of 10

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Welcome back.  If you are reading this, perhaps you have recognized that you don’t know what to do.  In Part 1, we developed a reflection routine.  How did that work out for you?  My little accountability buddy asked me every night, “Mom what were your wins?  What do you want to do better?”  He would also do the same exercise.  You need a clear head to make decisions.    Sometimes we get stuck in our expectations.  We have worked so hard at something it is difficult to change course.  Before changing anything, let us stop and breathe.  I often notice that I am not breathing or taking very shallow breaths.  Notice your breathing right now.  Is it fast or slow?  Deep or shallow?  Your breath can provide clues to your state of mind.  Generally the more relaxed you are the slower and deeper your breathing.

Being uncertain can make you feel a little shaky.  That is okay.  Taking deep breaths can help you calm down and feel more grounded.  Getting grounded can be as simple as taking a walk outside. I have definitely been known to hug a tree.  Try it.  There is no magic to being grounded, be literal.  Touch the ground with your body, maybe your feet or sitting and then notice how your body makes connection with the ground.  Is there an even pressure or do you tend to favor one side?  Breathing can provide a needed buffer between your thoughts and your decision-making process.  As you breathe, you may notice your thoughts.  View them as you may a movie.  Let them pass by.  Eat some mental popcorn and try not to yell back at the screen.  When you breathe and get grounded, you give yourself time to think before you take action.  

All the millions of ideas you have running around in your head, can rest as you breathe and get grounded.  Giving yourself a little mental space can help you to gain a new perspective about your situation.  A good thing about not knowing what to do, is that you do have many possibilities.  Now is not the time to get bogged down in “What if.”  I challenge you to make time to do some deep breathing.  Even if it is when you wash your hands.  Check in with yourself and slow down.  Being aware of your thoughts can help you to understand the current situation.  Breathing and getting grounded can provide the calm you need to take the next step.  I would love to hear from you.  How was the reflection routine?  How did you find the deep breathing?  If you need tips, please feel free to reach out.  Namaste

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