I wouldn't say I like taking risks. I almost defined myself by an action but I don’t want to claim that as part of my being. By taking baby steps, such as a LinkedIn Audio here and an Eventbrite there, I felt more comfortable putting myself out there. When I buried my people-pleasing self, it got even easier. In our mental words, thoughts are like zombies, and they continue to try and rise. It is natural to want validation. I love how my girlfriend describes it: confirmation. Technically validation is the act of confirming we are back at the beginning. A-ha! Actualization means to realize. Actualization comes the closest to getting internal validation. Perhaps I was risk-averse because my self-worth relied on external actions.
Rejection can be exhausting. If everyone is swiping left on your message or offer, it’s easy to feel drained. I am learning that if my power comes from inside, a “no” doesn’t have to be the end of the world. My friend Yinka Ewuola once challenged us to go for “no.” A no to something unsuitable for you is a yes to a better opportunity. When you shift your perspective, it almost feels like a game. No is not a personal judgement. It’s a confirmation (ha!) of misalignment. Your thoughts about rejection are what tires you out.
I keep hearing about mirror work. This is looking in the mirror and reminding yourself about how awesome you are. I have no qualms posting about how remarkable I am (better not as a Silver-Tier #IamRemarkable facilitator) yet looking myself in the eye and saying it out loud. Cringe fest. Hmmm, I think I know what my next Manic Monday post is going to be 😊. According to Merriam Webster genius as a noun is “a person who influences another for good or bad” and as an adjective is “extraordinary intellectual power especially as manifested in creative activity.” If you are a content creator, you have the potential to be a genius.
I am going to ask you to be brave. Sit with the discomfort. Don’t worry, I’ll be there with you. Monday, I am going to look myself in the eye and recognize how unique and valuable I am, because I said so. I will define my worth and I invite you to do the same. Bravery means being afraid and doing it anyway. I promise that ninety-nine percent of the time, it will not kill you. I can’t speak for cliff-jumping or skydiving but be sure to make safety your priority. Namaste