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Things To Think About, Monday, August 13th, 2018

Happy Monday, or whatever Monday you choose.

Perhaps this is not your most successful start of the week. Your beliefs determine your reality. What are you teaching yourself? What has been the framework for the decisions that have brought you to this point? You thought you were reaching the end of the most recent stage of your goals or projects. Perhaps you were looking forward to reaping the benefits of your hard work and maybe resting on your laurels for a short while. Where is the disconnect? Are you responsibly spending your resources? Have you been giving and giving and expected people to return the favor? That's nice in the fantasy world, but the reality is that you may be a professional martyr. When you do not feel you are enough, you will sacrifice your dignity and your independence waiting on someone to save you and make you feel worthy. What is blocking your abundance?


But, and there is always a but – you feel constrained. Are the chains real or are you a prisoner of your thoughts? Do you feel helpless as if life is just happening to you and you have no say in the matter? Is this true? Or is your belief system holding you back? Are you judging yourself too harshly? Are you making excuses and playing the victim? Maybe you feel as if you have no other options. You are stuck. The good news is you have the power to become unstuck. If you are your jailor, you also have the key.

Have you taken the time to renew or are you running on empty? Have you checked in with yourself? Have you allowed yourself to feel your feelings? Perhaps you are experiencing your emotions without any filters and responding in childish ways. Throwing an emotional temper tantrum. Again, you may not have control over your circumstances, but you can choose how you react to them. Are you listening to your authentic inner voice or are you drowning it out with your internal monologues of rationalization? How can you get back in balance? If you feel that you do not deserve a break because you are a failure, how will that help the situation? Perhaps you have some problematic feelings to explore, and some of the fear revolves around change. After all, you have had an individual belief system for quite some time. Maybe changing it means you will lose your core identity. Or perhaps some of those seeds we talked about last week are struggling to bloom because they are being choked by the weeds of your thought.

What's next? Sometimes the path is littered with battles. How will you pick your battles? You only have a limited supply of energy. The reality is that even when things are going well, there are battles. There are little micro choices that we have to contend with every day. A million jobs are vying for our attention. Are you willing to delve into the conflict and really think about it objectively? Or are you doubling down on the belief system that does not appear to be serving you? Are you making mountains out of molehills? Are you willing to fight to break free or will you continue to battle yourself? The choice is yours.