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Successful Sunday, February 18th, 2024

Picture description:  5 Affirmators! cards.  Top, Respect a blue card with a monkey having a water cooler chat without another monkey, and the speech bubbles are very loving.  Underneath to the left Money, showinge personified dollars and a coin dressed in evening clothes at a cocktail party.  To the right, Consideration is a red and white striped bag laying on it's side and a round brown cookie with arms and legs and a blue ball cap is striding out amongst the crumbs.  Bottom left, Challenge, a pale blond person with short hair at a hot dog eating competition.  Bottom right, Opportunities, a crystal ball showing signposts in multiple directions on a flying carpet.

Hello, Subscribers. My weekly writings will help you prepare for the week and set yourself up for success. I glean insights from various intuitive tools about behaviors and patterns and can help you do the same. Let’s get set up for success.

It’s time for an accountability check-in. Last week, I paid attention to the Zzhuup and was more present and connected. I journaled when something upset me and paid attention to my energy levels. Even the Pokémon cards turned up a Rescue Stretcher urging me to rest. Renewal is a continued goal this week.

Let us get ready for the week ahead. This week, I am featuring the Affirmators! At work by Suzi Barrett and illustrated by Naomi Sloman and © by Knock Knock LLC. The theme this week is respect. The words we say reflect our inner thoughts. During one of my live talks, we discussed what to do if your team does not respect you. The first question was if you respected them and if you loved yourself. Often, we project our insecurities onto other people, and they do the same to us. What is your role in any conflicts? Are you escalating or deescalating the conflict?

What are the underlying belief systems that impact how we treat others? Many people are under financial pressure or so focused on their problems that they lack consideration for others. It does not take any time to be kind. For example, we were ordering some takeout, and it was clear that most of the staff were new. I noticed that they took extra care to ensure that we understood the different foods in the order. I thanked them and mentioned it was very helpful. That motivated them to continue to take extra care. Had I decided to embrace my inner “may I speak with the manager,” everyone would be frustrated. We get poor outcomes if we only focus on our desires and ignore that humanity is an ecosystem.

When faced with seemingly insurmountable odds, I take a cue from video games and use them to level up. According to Theodore Agriogianis, in his Honors College Thesis, a boss battle faces “unique characters or creatures that are more complex and challenging to defeat than normal enemies.” We do not have to view other people as enemies. In games, we get to restart and figure out tactics to advance. We rarely get do-overs in life, so treating other people and ourselves with compassion is important. In martial arts, fighting a more robust opponent hones your skills faster because it provides a challenge. It is helpful to observe how they operate instead of tackling them head-on. Do you respect your opponents? What can you learn from sparring with them?

One of my old bosses said they never saw problems, only opportunities. It is easy to get angry and blow off steam. What if you approached disrespectful behavior as an opportunity to hone your diplomatic skills? Granted, even in religious texts, the angels fight wars. I was watching Sandman, and there was a battle between Dream and Lucifer Morningstar. I expected weapons, but it was a different contest requiring creativity and imagination. We have the power to change people around us. I encountered a hostile shopkeeper. I could have turned right back around and taken my business elsewhere. Instead, I used curiosity and active listening. By the end of our visit, we were invited to feed the koi fish, and she praised my children. What a treat. As the great Aretha Franklin sang, R-E-S-P-E-C-T, find out what it means to thee. Namaste